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Post by wonk on Dec 24, 2014 3:47:29 GMT -5
Hey Wonk, can you give me $20? Of course I will give you $20, just send me your bank details and pin
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Post by rebel6842 on Dec 26, 2014 14:08:36 GMT -5
I've been thinking of Te'o since this whole thing started. If it can happen to him, it can happen to ANYONE
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Dec 29, 2014 23:15:20 GMT -5
How can you sense that someone is a faker?! I never had even heard about this til Emma mentioned it to me and I still don't get what the point of faking does. Paranoid forever now. Lol. You totally can sense skammers, but I always like to give ppl the benefit of the doubt, like the time, when I added a girl from fb to skype, her cam wasn't working but that didn't stop her from speaking... And if u ask mee, her voice sounded like a guy trying to be a girl... LOL! sorry if I scared u further.... jajaja
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Dec 29, 2014 23:37:26 GMT -5
This thread is making me crazy anxious... By the way around the same time I signed in on here I also started chatting with a guy on fetlife. He contacted me, he declared he's a triple congenital amputee, but after a few days when I offered to move the whole thing on skype, he refused for privacy reasons. I'm very private as well, but I wouldn't mind showing my face, so to prove I'm actually who I say I am. So... could he be a faker? But he doesn't show those "typical" faker/pretender warning signs you way more expert people have been talking about... Actually imo he does, If anyone on fetlife of all places refuses skpe because of privacy issues then that would immediately raise a pretender/ scammer sign. And who knows maybe he's had practice, thus he could've refined his game. Which makes perfect sense to me, u like to scam people, u practice practice practice. I have this theory that half the people that have scammed me have actually been one person, because I tell u. I call everyone that scammes me a complete fool, so maybe one of them was like, yeah i'll fool u if it's the last thing i do, this shall be my destiny. But again people nothing to worry about, just be stingy about your privacy and it's all good. Oh and I iz tots looking u up on Fetty btw. lololol
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Post by linda on Feb 16, 2019 12:15:18 GMT -5
Maybe, maybe not. I once started to talk to a lady that turned out was married and not "living with a roommate". So all the same rules apply to us wheelers just like the ladies here. If things don't add up... Thanks for the thread Inigo Montoya Very true. I guess I've dealt with my fair share of scammers, just never from here. I was thinking more along the lines of fakers and didn't realize there were so many dev fakers. Hello Mr. NiceGuy, your post is pretty old but I still hope to get an answer - dev fakers? Who on earth would fake to be a dev? It doesn’t make sense to me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2019 8:35:05 GMT -5
Put yourself first. Don't run with expectations, and question situations. That way you'll be fine.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Feb 17, 2019 11:48:47 GMT -5
Very true. I guess I've dealt with my fair share of scammers, just never from here. I was thinking more along the lines of fakers and didn't realize there were so many dev fakers. Hello Mr. NiceGuy, your post is pretty old but I still hope to get an answer - dev fakers? Who on earth would fake to be a dev? It doesn’t make sense to me. I can think of one instance, years ago, where a Dev used pictures of her cousin (who was more conventionally attractive-and a LOT of pictures, cousin also led a more exciting life, iirc) and pretended to be that cousin until she had attracted a guy here that a lot of devs were into. I don't remember all the details, but it left him emotionally scarred. I think it's more rare but it happens often enough that PWD also need to be careful, too. I don't understand the motivation for catfishing anyway, but maybe others can offer more info and/or examples. (Also, ppl are welcome to correct anything I've gotten wrong.)
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Post by dannyboy95 on Feb 17, 2019 14:12:18 GMT -5
Hey, Kiddos, This is just a timely reminder that, before you emotionally invest in one of the internet peoples, you should make sure they're a real person and who they claim to be. Over the years here, there has been some fairly epic catfishing here. Try to spare yourself the emotional trauma and insist on skype meetings, pics with a paper with the word YOU asked them to write on it, etc. Other people are far better at that than me... lemons? We are all adults, but sometimes in the throes of an early friendship/relationship we let go of our common sense a little.* So, don't be afraid** to ask for things that let you know the person you're talking to is really all the things they claim to be. This reminder is simply due to the fact that I have been thinking about it. So, don't get in a wad thinking I know something. lol I'm gonna try to remember to push this to the top occasionally.*** *I, personally, have not always followed the internet people safety rules. I've been VERY lucky. **This can especially be a problem for someone who is new to the PD world. There can be an excitement and rush that is a common sense killer. ***I think this should be much less of a problem now that we have the minimum post/private message requirement but that wouldn't have stopped some of the catfish that I've known. It is a horrible phenomenon. It took me a long time to realize just how many fakes/catfishes are out there. When I did it absolutely flabbergasted me. Now when I get in contact with a wheeler profile I first always assume they're fake and then later see if they might be real and not the other way around. Whilst we were so busy shedding our public image as deviant sexual preditors we completely oversaw how we became the (easy) target of people who will lie through their teeth to fulfill their sexual desires (usually but not always BIID people). It's horrible because the experience (disappointment) can be so crushing. So just remember: if it seems to good to be true, it probably is, so be very cautious how much emotion you invest and what you share.
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Post by linda on Feb 17, 2019 14:18:10 GMT -5
You got me really scared now.
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Post by robbb on Feb 18, 2019 10:01:03 GMT -5
Usual scenario is new dev arrives and she's inundated with PM's from guys who rarely if ever post offering to be the wheeler of their dreams 🙄 I would absolutely agree with that. Any guy I have eventually decided wasn't for real has been very quick to private message but seldom takes part on the forums. Even in PMs they usually want lots of detail but share very little of themselves even when asked a direct question. R.
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Post by Emma on Feb 18, 2019 14:33:08 GMT -5
You got me really scared now. I’m happy to help you learn about what to watch for or try and figure out if someone is real. I also assume disabled guys are fakers until I have lots of proof that they are real.
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Post by robbb on Feb 18, 2019 14:51:25 GMT -5
You got me really scared now. I’m happy to help you learn about what to watch for or try and figure out if someone is real. I also assume disabled guys are fakers until I have lots of proof that they are real. I think I always go in assuming the best, maybe I should take a leaf out of your book. R.
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Post by linda on Feb 18, 2019 16:20:24 GMT -5
Thanks to all of you nice people. I just don’t get it. What does one get out of faking either a disability or being a dev? It’s strange. It’s just not in my nature to suspect the people I meet in general. Thanks for the good advice. But that would mean to search the forum for posts t see in which way they have been active here. Quite a task. Emma, what do you mean by proof? I would find it rather rude to ask to ask detailed questions about the disability. And I’m not an expert either... difficult...
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Post by Hopper on Feb 18, 2019 16:49:36 GMT -5
Some people just seem to get a kick of pretending to be something they aren't. Perhaps they like the fantasy aspect and don't care who they hurt when indulging it, or perhaps they enjoy the feeling they get when they find a weakness they can exploit and control.
It's a difficult one to answer and it's also scary to think about but don't let it put you off this place, you're in good hands with the community here.
A belated welcome, by the way.
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Post by Emma on Feb 19, 2019 1:46:00 GMT -5
linda you would not imagine the lengths some people go to fake disability. I don't really understand it either but it happens, a lot. I think many of the fakers have BIID (they want to be disabled) and faking the disability they desire online helps them deal with that. As far as proof its tough to say exactly and I always hesitate to share too much on here because that's just telling the fakers (yes they are reading this post) what to do to seem real. If you want to get into the details PM me and I'm happy to share more privately.
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