Hello, Introducing myself, new here.

[kingcnut]

Hello, Im AJ, M 37 straight, living in London, great to be part of this forum.

Full Disclosure I have BIID and do not have a SCI. I spend a lot of time in my tilite and recently more and more. I do not consider myself as a pretender, when I am in my chair I identify as a T10 complete paraplegic. When im not in my chair I spent the most amount of time physically possible as a T10 complete. My legs are just there and relax to a state where I literally don't even think of them, I move them with my hands / arms or drag them. There is no conscious feeling or movement I literally zone out from them. I live to the most realistic prospect possible, no weight bearing, walking , cheating to do things etc.

I have chatted to a few Devs over the years on other forums, some totally fine with BIID and some really not their thing. I fully appreciate that for many probably it is the real deal you desire and im not here to try convince you otherwise. I am looking for a female dev to share my experience and someone who likes to see me how I feel so complete. I roll nicely, have good chair skills and very little gets in my way, I find an alternative way to conquer most obstacles and do what need to be done. Im not looking for a care giver and although very independent also open to help for things that are little but mean so much to a wheeler. Happy to share every aspect of my BIID. IM also happy to never mention the BIID and just go from a level of im in a chair and that is it or even consider a narrative that works for you.

I am incredibly lucky and have naturally skinny legs and hips, to the point where they actually look atrophied, but also im not very flexible naturally so have some spasticity.

Looking forward to chatting to you female devs here, possibly into RP but genuinely looking for someone who would like to meet in person in the future and see where it goes.

Nice to meet you all and a great forum you have here. I have pics on my fetlife page ( King_Cnut ) or can set up something on imagr etc for anyone without an account there.

[bee]

Welcome from another Londoner.

[kingcnut]

Thankyou, nice to meet you bee. It seems very welcoming here, TBH I was a bit nervous how I would be received.

[ichbin]

Welcome to the forum. I appreciate your honesty!!👍

You said it's ok to share every aspect of your BIID.

I have a question: Do you ever feel guilty when you have an orgasm and find yourself enjoying it?

[kingcnut]

No I dont feel guilty, some incomplete sci can have orgasm and a lot of complete can climax with help, If I had the choice to wake up with a complete injury and I would loose that then that would be fine by me and I would live with everything that came with it. As long as I please the other person then thats all that counts. You could say do you not feel guilty that you could walk as most people would love the chance again. Its the same, I try to be as authentic to myself as physically possible and how I feel complete.

[kingcnut]

And thanks I feel very welcome here so far. Im happy to answer almost anything, and Im not interested in deceiving anybody and pretending to be something im not.

[ichbin]

Thanks for your reply! Very interesting.

To me there's a big gap between the ability to climax and the ability to fully feel and sense an orgasm. When I asked my question, I meant the latter.

[kingcnut]

Yes your right, I think what I meant is everybody with SCI makes the most of what they possibly can. If I had the choice I would deprive myself of orgasm if it was possible to be T10 complete and that was a side effect. I would embrace everything that would come with it. I would trade that instantly. I don't want to offend any PWD and some might wonder how I can think that but its how.it is.

[James]

May 5, 2024 13:28:18 GMT -5 kingcnut said:

And thanks I feel very welcome here so far. Im happy to answer almost anything, and Im not interested in deceiving anybody and pretending to be something im not.

Totally. Except when you go out in your wheelchair, pretending to be a para and everything 🙄

[kingcnut]

I fully disclose my situation, Im not pretending to be a para to talk to a Dev. So please don't try to shame, I am what I am.

[junimo]

I totally appreciate how open you are! Do you ever get hit on in your chair in public? I could see it getting very complicated! Anyway, welcome

[kingcnut]

May 6, 2024 21:19:56 GMT -5 junimo said:

I totally appreciate how open you are! Do you ever get hit on in your chair in public? I could see it getting very complicated! Anyway, welcome

Thank you, junimo. Yes it can get complicated very fast.

[ayla]

May 5, 2024 17:19:14 GMT -5 James said:

May 5, 2024 13:28:18 GMT -5 kingcnut said:

And thanks I feel very welcome here so far. Im happy to answer almost anything, and Im not interested in deceiving anybody and pretending to be something im not.

Totally. Except when you go out in your wheelchair, pretending to be a para and everything 🙄

 James I completely get where you're coming from, but consider also that the choice is not between people pretending vs. not pretending... it's more about deceiving us with pretending vs. being open about it. You/we might not like what he does, but can you admit that it's better than LYING about what he does? Again, I can totally understand why it's upsetting to have someone pretend to have a disability. It's also upsetting to have this sort of person deceive and manipulate you to take advantage of your dev feelings. So on the whole I give the guy credit for being straightforward about his experience.

[James]

May 7, 2024 12:35:20 GMT -5 ayla said:

May 5, 2024 17:19:14 GMT -5 James said:

Totally. Except when you go out in your wheelchair, pretending to be a para and everything 🙄

 James I completely get where you're coming from, but consider also that the choice is not between people pretending vs. not pretending... it's more about deceiving us with pretending vs. being open about it. You/we might not like what he does, but can you admit that it's better than LYING about what he does? Again, I can totally understand why it's upsetting to have someone pretend to have a disability. It's also upsetting to have this sort of person deceive and manipulate you to take advantage of your dev feelings. So on the whole I give the guy credit for being straightforward about his experience.

He's honest here because he knows he'd get caught. However unless he's stopping everyone he passes on the street, in every conversation then he is deceiving people. An even larger issue is taking an accessible parking spot, or spot on public transportation and lots of other resources from actual disabled people. So no, I will not be giving him any credit.

[kingcnut]

May 7, 2024 14:15:36 GMT -5 James said:

May 7, 2024 12:35:20 GMT -5 ayla said:

 James I completely get where you're coming from, but consider also that the choice is not between people pretending vs. not pretending... it's more about deceiving us with pretending vs. being open about it. You/we might not like what he does, but can you admit that it's better than LYING about what he does? Again, I can totally understand why it's upsetting to have someone pretend to have a disability. It's also upsetting to have this sort of person deceive and manipulate you to take advantage of your dev feelings. So on the whole I give the guy credit for being straightforward about his experience.

He's honest here because he knows he'd get caught. However unless he's stopping everyone he passes on the street, in every conversation then he is deceiving people. An even larger issue is taking an accessible parking spot, or spot on public transportation and lots of other resources from actual disabled people. So no, I will not be giving him any credit.

Wow James, it’s not your legs the don’t work, its your brain too. There is no logic here, “I’m upfront because id get caught?” If a dev is ok with me being who I am then i’m fine with that, Im also fine with a dev not liking it also and we don’t have to chat, why would they want to chat to me I wasn’t honest, devs of all people would be able to tell instantly?
I didn’t want to call you out and as a new member here I don’t want confrontation so please DM me if you have a problem.
How you can assume I take resources and deprive you or any other pwd from them is absurd, you don’t know me.
If you feel threatened don’t worry Im not here to steal one of your devs and derive you of one of your precious resources ( probably how you see devs too if are playing the assumption game) , with an attitude like yours you are doing that job for yourself.