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Post by vonvon13 on May 9, 2009 0:45:31 GMT -5
I have ran in to a lot wheeler's who have freaked out. When they find out I am a devo. To me disabled ppl are no different than AB ppl. We all have issues some worse than others. We are all looking for the same things. Someone to love us for who we are.
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Post by Ray T on May 9, 2009 0:58:45 GMT -5
well a few of the female wheelers i know have had some pretty scarry run ins with devos where they were harassed stalked and even in one case i know of roughed up to the point the police had to get involved... so that kind of gives all the nice devs a bad name... So i respect their desition not to like devs but i think you gals are wonderful i have met a couple of my closest friends here at this website. and also have a few good friends from other wheeler only sites that are afrade of devos... so i am not sure about everyone but i think deves are great.
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Post by Phil on May 9, 2009 10:49:46 GMT -5
Ray touched on a few reasons. There's probably many more.
Ignorance?
Intolerance?
Low self-esteem in some crip guys?
Those three come to mind.
Phil
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Post by E on May 9, 2009 10:59:14 GMT -5
Because of the horns and fanged teeth...
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Post by Inigo Montoya on May 9, 2009 11:45:13 GMT -5
Look, the horns are in my desk drawer for emergencies only, okay?
Or days when they match my shirt... whichever comes first.
Well, and halloween...
Really, if you just pay attention you can find good reasons to wear them.
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Post by Ouch on May 9, 2009 14:40:05 GMT -5
Because of the horns and fanged teeth... Yeah, no kiddin'...the devs make you think they're all into the chair - then you live with one and find out they're just a vampire clan - err..."Yes, misstress, I shall follow you to the crypt..." ...and noi1588 has a tail, to boot! She takes out her pitchfork on occasion too...
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Post by vonvon13 on May 9, 2009 16:31:37 GMT -5
Because of the horns and fanged teeth... I don't bite hard! ;D
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Post by vonvon13 on May 10, 2009 0:17:51 GMT -5
And yes a lot of wheelies have low self esteem. We are still seen as second class by some people but I must say that finding a place like this has sure helped me to see life in a different light. I know. I wish it was not that way. I kinda understand in a way. I have had guys not want to date me cuz of my huge scar down my chest. Which I would not be alive if I didn't have that scar. I have more battle scars than I care to count.
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Post by Ouch on May 10, 2009 6:51:05 GMT -5
Because of the horns and fanged teeth... Nah, it's not horns or fangs. It's definitely b/c we eat braaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaiiiinnnssssssssssssssssss! (The best part about this photo is that it's from Easter Sunday and not halloween) Paradevo will now be known as www.necrodevs.org
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on May 22, 2009 2:08:57 GMT -5
Really??? to me knowing that a girl was devo would be a huge + baby! cause then I'd knw that she'd really want a piece of me.... which would be awesome! but I guess if they thought u were only attracted to the chair then ya I guess I could see that. But still I mean If I girl was only going out with me cause she had fetish for blue facial hair I wouldn't be like, uhhhh stay away from my beard u devil woman! lol no... I'd be like, play away baby play away.....just don't eat it pls..haha Easter Ehhh? U wouldn't happen to be a metal chick as well would u???
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Post by roger888 on May 25, 2009 9:52:45 GMT -5
Why are some wheelers scared of devo's?Possibly because in the real world they are scared of their own shadow,shouldnt stick your hand in the fire if you are afraid to get burnt.
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Post by dragon on Jun 4, 2009 23:45:43 GMT -5
Too often many wheelers are scared. Scared of what we can’t do. Scared of one more rejection after every girl we ever talked to turned us down. We let our fears stand in the way. We think no one can love our twisted body and understand our pain. We say no because yes requires courage.
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wayan
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Post by wayan on Jun 17, 2009 4:43:04 GMT -5
Wheelers scared? I can't speak for all of us, but I know in my case scared wouldn't be accurate at all. Suspicious would be a more apt word. I only found out about devotees about a month ago. Before then I was unaware there were such people. My first reaction bar shock was and still to some degree is disbelief and suspicion. I'm far from your shrinking violet scared of my own shadow type wheeler (hehe this term is funny), and have dated and been in a relationship a few times before. In every circumstance I have bar one its always been a monumental struggle at first to get most women to see past the disability, to finally take stock and thus desire me the man behind the disability. It takes patience, time, confidence and usually a pretty decent woman, and even with all those ingredients many women even in this day in age simply can't take the leap. There's far, far more times I've got the 'Your awesome, but I'm just not strong enough speech' than the 'Your amazing lets give it a go' speech. Hard cold fact is disability to the masses is not in anyway sexy, or desirable. Its natural law of selection. Humans on a whole seek out and desire the, fittest, healthiest most desirable mate around. I know even myself that on that primal scale I will always be fighting an uphill battle. Its not an unwinnable battle by any means but it isn't a walk in the park either even when approached with the right self confident attitude. Its increasingly difficult too depending on for degree of wheelability (ermm...not a good term but lets say severity of disability). With all this in mind you have to understand to even me, someone who's very comfortable with myself and has had some success with the opposite sex despite my disability the notion of someone being attracted to me due to it, sexual or otherwise just seems to go against everything I thought was true about the world, and my place in it. Rather than doubt a lifetime full of opposite experiences I find myself doubting the sincerity of the new (well to me at least) group of people I only just discovered was out there. I don't mean it as a slight against any devotees out there, so please forgive me if it sounds otherwise. I still don't know enough about it all and have had little... well no experience with anyone who is a devotee yet, hence me being here... but I must be honest there's a part of me that is very suspicious about it all. There's one question going round in my head about it all. Its simply why? You see when something sounds too good to be true, it tends to usually be sinister. I can understand logically why life for me is the way it has been and why the general populous as a whole views disability and me the way they do even if I don't like it. It makes sense to me on a logical level even if it sucks on a more personal emotional one. Devoteeism (don't know if thats a correct term but whatever) right now doesn't make sense to me logically and doesn't fit in with the life experiences I've had up to now. Hence my suspicion.
Also I'm also slightly miffed. The amount of time I've put into women trying to convert them into my own personal devotees and the heartache I've sometimes received as a result could of been saved had I known there were people out there who actually wanted me for me, who saw my disability as a bonus rather than a negative to overcome. Where've you ladies been hiding all my life! :-p
So yeah I ramble a lot. Please forgive the long winded reply.
Oh and hi all!
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Post by BA on Jun 18, 2009 20:37:09 GMT -5
). With all this in mind you have to understand to even me, someone who's very comfortable with myself and has had some success with the opposite sex despite my disability the notion of someone being attracted to me due to it, sexual or otherwise just seems to go against everything I thought was true about the world, and my place in it. Rather than doubt a lifetime full of opposite experiences I find myself doubting the sincerity of the new (well to me at least) group of people I only just discovered was out there. I think that you come with some really sincere and excellent points that make much sense from a 'logical' standpoint. I also think that if you spend some time on this site that your entire perception of reality may change. Devotees are who we are. We are wired this way. There is no ulterior motive and nothing to gain. We are from all walks of life and all parts of the world. There are no age or race barriers. Our commonality is that we find disabilty to be an asset rather than a detriment in our preference for a physcial type. You may feel it goes against the "natural law of selection". Well, maybe we are just more evolved.
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Post by wayan on Jun 21, 2009 11:10:38 GMT -5
Thanks for that AB. Like I said before, I hope sincerely that my initial caution is misplaced. I'm sure it will be as everyone so far here seems really nice. Just wanted to point out that its not always a fear thing, and is understandably quite unnerving at first for something to come across so outside the norm of the ways things usually are. Don't get me wrong though, I'm all for Devo's! I just wish there were more 'enlightened' people around. Maybe then it wouldn't be such a shock to the system.
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