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Post by Dee Dee on Aug 27, 2010 17:42:18 GMT -5
Devodiva- oh, my.. no. Sorry, I wasn't clear. I meant he could see what was going on at that moment. You know how sometimes when you are laying together you can't see what is going on under the covers or below your waist because you are looking in each others eyes or eyes are closed or something. Those times. If I am pressing my knees into his hips and he is looking at my face- I tell him what I am doing and how it feels to me. However, sometimes I wish he was blind... you know, in the morning, before makeup and bedhead! I can be scary. Faith, thank you for explaining. It makes complete sense  . Personally I´m not too fond of a boyfriend seeing me in the morning with my bedhead and no make-up on - on the other hand, it´s the reality, and he needs to live with me being "morning ugly" (men neither look nor smell too good in the morning anyway  ). |
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Post by Ath on Sept 16, 2010 12:43:36 GMT -5
I'm not sure I should answer this question cos it is or was a major issue for me, involving so much guilt. I find deformaty and speech imparements very very hot ( wheelies, not mute/deaf people specifically), I've yet to meet a guy with cp and that could possibly be another ten for me. (I'll admit to watching some clips on xtube where a cp guy shows his feet jerking while he masturbates and finding it incredibly hot  ) ) The last weeks ive also fantasised about obese guys, possible cos I've been watching the swedish version of biggest loser, lol. But I could spot a severly disabled guy with muscular dystrophy (yes I could probably tell if its sma or duchenne too >.<) on the other side of the street, and my brain just switches off. I find the deformaty and thin body extremly hot. But I don't think get more excited if the guy is using a ventilator or say, if his chair is bigger than others or things like that. What is so difficult is obvious, these disabilites involve so much pain and hardship. I'm not attracted to 'dying people', I don't want people to be in pain. I could analyze this til I start crying, but my feelings are what they are. I've known several guys who made the choice not to get involved with anyone because there are so many issues, because they have to focus on their own health. |
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Post by devogirl on Sept 18, 2010 12:28:06 GMT -5
Thank you ath for posting this. We've all struggled with guilt, and the situations you describe are especially hard. But there's no reason to make yourself cry, like you said, your feelings are what they are. Good for you for being honest with yourself.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Sept 18, 2010 14:49:16 GMT -5
What devogirl said.  |
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 12, 2010 13:20:24 GMT -5
Like most of you I have a wide range of interests in terms of disability but really nothing nearly as strong as amputees. I have always been interested in all physical disabilities but not in the sexual way. For me the only disability that was a sexual turn on was amputees. Its a little hard to explain. I guess I'm interested in a educational, medical way. For example I'm fascinated by all the shows on the discovery health channel about people who are conjoined twins, have skin disorders, were born with their legs fused together, etc but it is not a sexual fascination and hence the gender of the person does not matter (I'm straight). I like to know a lot about other disabilities but don't think I'd ever date a guy with another disability. I did date a guy with CP for a little bit to "try out" being a dev; he was the first guy with a disability I dated. While I was interested mildly in his CP it was not really a turn on. So for the people who have changed what disability they like.... can you elaborate? Did you stop liking the first disability or just add other disabilities you were into. Was it always a sexual thing well nto change or just an interest? well it isnt change as in forget the other diabilities.. my main devness is for paras now that been there since i was a child. but just got even stronger now my other likes are not the main and dont make me feel how i would sexualy for a para. its just as i get older i seem to be more open minded about other disabilities. but so far amputee devness as never been somthing that cought my eye and iwoudnt date an amp i dont think strange that i get alot of amps of other sites contacting me but no sci guys lol |
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 12, 2010 13:23:09 GMT -5
Well, it's like parax said, you see someone who strikes your interest, and you end up liking a disability that you never thought about before. For me, it's changed a lot over the years, but the changes happen very slowly. Sometimes I stop liking something, sometimes not. For instance, like Rob I was fascinated by plaster casts and crutches when I was a kid, but eventually lost interest. I've been interested in just about every disability at some point, some more strongly or more persistently than others. Sometimes I'll see something that strikes me in just the right way, and I'll be obsessing for months, or years even, then sometimes a particular interest just fades away. I can't really explain it better than that, it's really random and there is no logic to it. thats intresting about the plaster casts coz i was also intrested in that as i child but i didnt know what a plaster cast was i used to wet tissue then wrapp it round my barbers legs and let it dry it looked like a cast i had no clue why i had the urge to do that but that went away for many years and has just recently cought my eye again |
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 12, 2010 13:28:20 GMT -5
I'm not sure I should answer this question cos it is or was a major issue for me, involving so much guilt. I find deformaty and speech imparements very very hot ( wheelies, not mute/deaf people specifically), I've yet to meet a guy with cp and that could possibly be another ten for me. (I'll admit to watching some clips on xtube where a cp guy shows his feet jerking while he masturbates and finding it incredibly hot ) ) The last weeks ive also fantasised about obese guys, possible cos I've been watching the swedish version of biggest loser, lol. But I could spot a severly disabled guy with muscular dystrophy (yes I could probably tell if its sma or duchenne too >.<) on the other side of the street, and my brain just switches off. I find the deformaty and thin body extremly hot. But I don't think get more excited if the guy is using a ventilator or say, if his chair is bigger than others or things like that. What is so difficult is obvious, these disabilites involve so much pain and hardship. I'm not attracted to 'dying people', I don't want people to be in pain. I could analyze this til I start crying, but my feelings are what they are. I've known several guys who made the choice not to get involved with anyone because there are so many issues, because they have to focus on their own health. Honestly I know how you feel about the guilt I have gone through the guilt stage many times. and for now this very second i have no guilt towards how i feel.. i might tomoro. but i think that we like something that is inevitable. weather we like a disabled person or not .. they will be disabled. its nothing that we can control so i dont see why we should have guilt over it. we are embrassing what we think is great and is great. i think i feel guilt sometimes towards it when i hear peoples opinion about it saying " oh thats not right there disabled thats not nice" its like why isnt it? they dont seem to be complaining. so why should i.. i think the more people come out about liking what we like the less guilty we will feel the more normal we will feel but for now. just realise that were not hurting anybody xx |
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Post by paulbe on Oct 23, 2010 14:15:41 GMT -5
I never posted on here, dont know why. But the reason I post now and on this subject is that there is only one man that responded. I'm Paul from Belgium and a dev for as long as I can remember. Paras and polio guys are my favorite.
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Post by BA on Oct 23, 2010 18:24:51 GMT -5
Hi Paul and welcome. It would be nice if you could post in the general section also as more people read it. Gay disabled males and devs are welcome on this site.
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 26, 2010 11:16:59 GMT -5
I never posted on here, dont know why. But the reason I post now and on this subject is that there is only one man that responded. I'm Paul from Belgium and a dev for as long as I can remember. Paras and polio guys are my favorite. hey welcome! Feel free to write your opinion on the subject |
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Post by trinity on Oct 26, 2010 13:49:51 GMT -5
Like Samantha, I don't think I have one exact preference. My favorites are quads¶s but I also adore blind guys .  |
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Post by devogirl on Oct 26, 2010 16:03:27 GMT -5
Yeay! Another devo for blind guys! You're definitely not the only one here. You might want to join this group too: groups.yahoo.com/group/gfbg/It's much smaller than Paradevo, and gets a lot less traffic. But people do read it, if you post you will get responses. There was a flurry of activity over the summer when Covert Affairs was on TV. Go figure, ha ha. |
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Post by Emma on Oct 26, 2010 18:27:01 GMT -5
I was never into blind guys but always loved the movie and character Daredevil. Maybe it was the combo between Ben Affleck and disability that hooked me, or maybe it was the whole ability to overcome disability and be independent and successful.
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Post by trinity on Oct 27, 2010 3:17:16 GMT -5
Devogirl, thaks a lot! I'll do immediately. Emma, that's for you: chud.com/nextraimages/oct22dd2.jpg (I had some troubles with the IMG tag today...) IMHO, to love Ben Affleck in red leather you don’t have to be necessarily be a blind-dev! |
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Post by Emma on Oct 27, 2010 15:54:05 GMT -5
Love the pic trinity! I think I used to have it on my computer. They did a good job with his contacts huh?
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