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Post by damedevo on Jan 17, 2006 2:06:35 GMT -5
Jason, I greatly appreciate your frank, articulate posting and your generous spirit. You have helped me to clarify the new perspective I've been trying to bring into focus for myself, in my own life and marriage. Many thanks!
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Post by vivi on Jan 17, 2006 10:39:14 GMT -5
Wow Jason... Could we go on a date? I have never heard angels sing...
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Post by mrjefffurz on Jan 17, 2006 10:44:25 GMT -5
jason, im glad u had the time to explain the experience from our perspective as i havent been able to give it the time it deserves...of course, it was different for me from the beginning since i was 26 when i got hurt and had been married for several years,,side note about 1 nite stands: they dont work for me either,,, i have big trust issues so i need to get to know the woman and i think most will agree that great sex is the result of practice, practice, practice...anywayz..,i was quite experienced pre-dis....after,,,i believe i mentioned that my ex'es interest in me slowly waned over the first year or so until i moved to my own room and marriage became a business realationship...altho i will fondly recall one night,,maybe 5 years later,,,when she got just a weeee bit tipsy, came to my room and pounced my ragged ass,,,since i left in 2000 i havent been able to find a woman i could stand to be around more than about a month...im not very tolerant of certain behaviors,,,*shrug*...but ms hairbrush, being experienced at sex with a dis dude, did the things you described,,,and it was ,,well,,,eye-opening...believe me, beginning with my next ex-g/f, im going to give specific directions...and if its the woman i think its going to be ive already had a small demonstration of her neck & ear nibbling expertise....
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Post by jenny on Jan 18, 2006 6:01:24 GMT -5
"I learned that the absolute most important thing in sex – as with so much of life - is communicating and paying attention." And some guys don't understand why we're devs?
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Post by spurs2000 on Jan 18, 2006 17:44:41 GMT -5
"I learned that the absolute most important thing in sex – as with so much of life - is communicating and paying attention." And some guys don't understand why we're devs? Sounds about right to me!
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Post by wheelie37 on Jan 20, 2006 4:58:54 GMT -5
I was wondering if this would be a great thread to explain about the medical side of disability, ie some people may be afraid too have sex with a wheelchair user as dont understand about leg bags or the mechanics of catheters , condoms etc. Do most Devo,s know this or does any devotees have any questions?
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Post by mrjefffurz on Jan 20, 2006 13:15:06 GMT -5
my cath's bigger than your cath, wheelie ;D
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Post by jenny on Jan 20, 2006 19:52:13 GMT -5
Hey, it comes with the territory, yes? (The leg bags, cathing, etc. etc.)
I figured from the get-go I needed to find out as much as I could about life with a wheeler.
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Post by devogirl on Jan 20, 2006 20:22:05 GMT -5
Yes, and I am very grateful to a fellow devo online who clued me in to the details before I had my first relationship with a rollerboy all those years ago. His exact words were, "Your dream guy might pee on you!" But just so you know, an AB guy I was dating once wet my bed in the middle of the night, so don't worry guys, it can happen to anyone ;D It's really no big deal.
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Post by rollnthundr on Jan 20, 2006 21:49:06 GMT -5
That and the bowel thing are probably the biggest hurtles to get over when first dating a woman who has no idea about w/c guys. This is where the devo thing can be so appealing to us guys.
Devogirl.. lmao, about the AB guy wetting the bed, only because I had two different AB girls wet their pants on dates. These were before I was in a chair.
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Post by bry on Jan 20, 2006 22:39:09 GMT -5
Going down on a woman or having her sit on my face has always played a big part, for me while having sex. After the foreplay, paying attention to the breasts, I would almost always head south. Usually spending more time performing cuninglus than intercourse. Post injury I have been with only one woman. An ex pca. During our time together, I found out it more pleasurable. I couldn't get enough. During one session, I was so in to it, that I tore the piece of skin between the bottom of my mouth and tongue. Ya, it hurt so good! One thing I enjoy is kissing, I've been told I'm great at it. The talk about parts of your body, that still has sensation, being more hypersensitive the mouth is definately on my list. Penile penetration isn't a big deal for me. Unless it is for the woman. YES, I would love to feel an orgasm again, but giving pleasure and getting pleasure through alternative means suits me just fine.
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Post by Julie on Jan 21, 2006 2:00:58 GMT -5
so i'm a girlie who luvz wheelers and i have to admit that not only do i know all about the cath/bowel stuff but its a biggie turn on for me to think about a guy doing that! i am probly way wierd but i have these fantasies just about guys putting in a cath, yum.
so my q to u guyz is: is it a good thing or a bad thing if a girl is turned on by the cath?
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Post by wheelie37 on Jan 21, 2006 6:53:20 GMT -5
I think it is a good thing if it turns a girl on my girlfriends have found it interesting too watch me doing caths, though i didnt let them watch me manually emptying my bowells!
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Post by mrjefffurz on Jan 21, 2006 12:10:54 GMT -5
i would much rather the bladder/bowel yadda yadda yadda stuff just be accepted in the same manner we accept all those things in any other relationship...
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Post by babs on Jan 21, 2006 12:28:31 GMT -5
Hi, You guys are like a breath of fresh air... And you really know how to make a girl smile and feel at ease. I guess, we do the same for you.
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