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Post by linda on Feb 22, 2019 11:49:10 GMT -5
I have read in many contexts now on PD that both, PWDs and devs, are sometimes wondering how to recognize whether one would react in an affirmative way or not when approached in the wild. I have never even seen the man of my dreams in real life anywhere (except on tv), but I have certainly imagined what I would do if I came across him. Of course under the aspect of the well known prejudice against devs by many PWDs (which I can totally understand, but nevertheless any kind of prejudice is something that emerges out of a lack of knowledge and understanding). So I had this magnificent idea: what if there was a certain secret code, some sign that indicates a PWD is open to be approached by devs? And vice versa, a dev person being open for PWDs? Less chance to be afraid of getting denied. Like the freemasons (well, a handshake would seem like the second step though), or I don’t know, other members of some other groups that would like to recognize each other without being open about it to the sorrounding? The rainbowflag is not so secret anymore, but there might be a chance that it served this purpose once. I’m not an expert on these things... But I think it would be great to have something like that! What do you think? Any suggestions? Maybe someone else came up with this before, but for now I feel like a genius. ;-)
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Post by Braced4Impact on Feb 22, 2019 14:43:08 GMT -5
I have read in many contexts now on PD that both, PWDs and devs, are sometimes wondering how to recognize whether one would react in an affirmative way or not when approached in the wild. I have never even seen the man of my dreams in real life anywhere (except on tv), but I have certainly imagined what I would do if I came across him. Of course under the aspect of the well known prejudice against devs by many PWDs (which I can totally understand, but nevertheless any kind of prejudice is something that emerges out of a lack of knowledge and understanding). So I had this magnificent idea: what if there was a certain secret code, some sign that indicates a PWD is open to be approached by devs? And vice versa, a dev person being open for PWDs? Less chance to be afraid of getting denied. Like the freemasons (well, a handshake would seem like the second step though), or I don’t know, other members of some other groups that would like to recognize each other without being open about it to the sorrounding? The rainbowflag is not so secret anymore, but there might be a chance that it served this purpose once. I’m not an expert on these things... But I think it would be great to have something like that! What do you think? Any suggestions? Maybe someone else came up with this before, but for now I feel like a genius. ;-) It's been discussed several times in the past, but to my knowledge, nothing has ever been agreed upon.
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Post by Sir Paul on Feb 22, 2019 15:09:13 GMT -5
This is a fantastic idea with a wide range of options! Tattoos. They'd have to be visible and easily identifiable, so face tattoos would be ideal. It could be as simple as the stamped words "Dev friendly" and "PWD or bust" or some agreed upon symbol. Shirts, hats, arm bands, red hats with basic white lettering?... with subtle, yet recognizable agreed upon imagery. Implanted microchips connected to a smartphone app for easy tracking and registration. This might be the best solution (and the most dangerous!). A universal question with corresponding answer - like a spy movie. These might not be the best ideas
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Post by linda on Feb 22, 2019 15:18:30 GMT -5
This is a fantastic idea with a wide range of options! Tattoos. They'd have to be visible and easily identifiable, so face tattoos would be ideal. It could be as simple as the stamped words "Dev friendly" and "PWD or bust" or some agreed upon symbol. Shirts, hats, arm bands, red hats with basic white lettering?... with subtle, yet recognizable agreed upon imagery. Implanted microchips connected to a smartphone app for easy tracking and registration. This might be the best solution (and the most dangerous!). A universal question with corresponding answer - like a spy movie. These might not be the best ideas Dear Sir Paul, you strike me as a brilliant mind! Such wonderful suggestions! Please more of this! I‘ll get the tattoo on the forehead done right away. Ok ok guys. I back off here. Not a genius after all... 😩
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Post by Sir Paul on Feb 22, 2019 20:12:40 GMT -5
Dear Sir Paul, you strike me as a brilliant mind! Such wonderful suggestions! Please more of this! I‘ll get the tattoo on the forehead done right away. Ok ok guys. I back off here. Not a genius after all... 😩 Hehe. Don't sell yourself short. You're being pragmatic about bringing people together! I don't know if there's a realistic way to identify devs or dev-friendly PWD's in the wild. The best idea I could offer would be to meet a person in the normal way (running over their foot is my go to strategy for this), get to know them, then if they seem open minded, bring up the topic of devotee-ism in a casual way to get their thoughts.
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Post by Betty on Feb 22, 2019 23:56:37 GMT -5
I recall some mention in the past of a phrase incorporating the words "my friend Dev." Similar to the the way those in Alcoholics Anonymous refer to themselves as being "a friend of Bill."
I think I also remember seeing a photo of a necklace someone made which simply had the word "Devotee" on a gold chain.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2019 0:07:19 GMT -5
Yeah, it actually has been discussed but I think we could discuss it again. I remember some kind of letter in whichever form, necklace, armband, tattoo, T-Shirt...what was the letter? Anyone remember? It was an old English letter that looked like a wheelchair or something.
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Post by linda on Feb 23, 2019 0:11:56 GMT -5
Dear Sir Paul, you strike me as a brilliant mind! Such wonderful suggestions! Please more of this! I‘ll get the tattoo on the forehead done right away. Ok ok guys. I back off here. Not a genius after all... 😩 Hehe. Don't sell yourself short. You're being pragmatic about bringing people together! I don't know if there's a realistic way to identify devs or dev-friendly PWD's in the wild. The best idea I could offer would be to meet a person in the normal way (running over their foot is my go to strategy for this), get to know them, then if they seem open minded, bring up the topic of devotee-ism in a casual way to get their thoughts. Oh, that’s brilliant! So to me that means, I should just place my foot under some guy‘s wheelchair and get rolled over. That should be easy. I‘ll do that first time I get a chance. 😀
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Post by Hopper on Feb 23, 2019 1:43:42 GMT -5
Or If you're feeling particularly dramatic, just dive in front of them. Or swoon, swooning's better.
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Post by linda on Feb 23, 2019 2:10:49 GMT -5
Or If you're feeling particularly dramatic, just dive in front of them. Or swoon, swooning's better. That is such a nice idea! Seriously, how romantic would that be! That would be a total start for a book or a movie for devs. Haven’t thought of that yet, but thanks for the wonderful idea! I would try to swoon right onto his lap though instead of getting rolled over completely, don’t you think? Even though the latter would probably be the more dramatic scenario, but I would always chose romanticness (is there such word? I‘m not a native speaker...) over drama. But that‘s step two. First I need to find the place to meet that guy. Where are all the cute paras from Middle Germany? No one around here, I guess...
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Post by bb2133 on Feb 23, 2019 8:46:17 GMT -5
I would recommend buying them a beer, seems less painful than getting your foot run over haha
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Post by Hopper on Feb 23, 2019 11:39:13 GMT -5
Or If you're feeling particularly dramatic, just dive in front of them. Or swoon, swooning's better. That is such a nice idea! Seriously, how romantic would that be! That would be a total start for a book or a movie for devs. Haven’t thought of that yet, but thanks for the wonderful idea! I would try to swoon right onto his lap though instead of getting rolled over completely, don’t you think? Even though the latter would probably be the more dramatic scenario, but I would always chose romanticness (is there such word? I‘m not a native speaker...) over drama. But that‘s step two. First I need to find the place to meet that guy. Where are all the cute paras from Middle Germany? No one around here, I guess... Yes, swooning into his lap would be more romantic than swooning onto the ground, for sure. Yes it's a silly idea but in terms of putting it into a book or a movie. It could work. For a first meeting? Perhaps not, but for a second or third? Yeah, it'd be funny.
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Post by ada on Feb 23, 2019 12:05:16 GMT -5
I would recommend buying them a beer, seems less painful than getting your foot run over haha BUT! If you're too shy to be as straightforward as beer-buying, feel free to wheel over my toes, haha
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Post by Hopper on Feb 23, 2019 12:19:56 GMT -5
Besides, beer numbs pain, it's a win-win.
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Post by lars on Feb 23, 2019 13:52:16 GMT -5
I like the idea of an implanted microchip. Growing a pair and asking someone out is also an option, if you are a dev. Carping that diem and so forth. In case you're disabled, the most practical option is to make yourself visible - dating applications work, just make sure to look disabled as fuck. Unfortunately, doing that closes off the doors for a metric ton of otherwise perfectly nice people - and shoving the disability down someone's throat on the front page works better than most shark repellents, when it comes to repelling people. In either way, it's good to be prepared and to learn how to handle a whole lot of rejection, as mutual attraction isn't a guaranteed thing. There's no reason to feel glum, though. 'Tis life. When it comes to dis/dev pairings, the ball and what you want to do with it is firmly in the hands of you devs, if we're talking about those "in the wild"-encounters. Then there are places like PD - but that's often something that'll lead to things with a lot of distance. It's a trade-off, but activity pays off. Being a passive dreamer doesn't.
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