|
Post by SouthernCalGal on Mar 3, 2019 22:35:24 GMT -5
pam, even though you are not single-you can still give a wheeler a smile! Why not? He is just a person?
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2019 23:02:57 GMT -5
pam, even though you are not single-you can still give a wheeler a smile! Why not? He is just a person? Just because you’re on a diet, it doesn’t mean you can’t look at a menu.
|
|
|
Post by pam on Mar 4, 2019 8:37:03 GMT -5
pam, even though you are not single-you can still give a wheeler a smile! Why not? He is just a person? You are very correct and I will smile. It is true that even though we could not date, I can let him know that I think he's cute!!!
|
|
|
Post by pam on Mar 4, 2019 8:38:21 GMT -5
pam, even though you are not single-you can still give a wheeler a smile! Why not? He is just a person? Just because you’re on a diet, it doesn’t mean you can’t look at a menu. That's right! I enjoy looking at menus even though I need to lose weight😋
|
|
|
Post by kwhi on Mar 5, 2019 4:05:43 GMT -5
This is an interesting thread. It is good to see how those on the devo tip approach PWD’s “in the wild” so to speak. Everyone has their own levels of confidence and trepidation. As far as introductions are concerned this thread gives me call to remember my favorite cold introduction...I was attending an after work cocktail event at The Phillips Collection, one of my fav places in DC. I was a member at The Phillips because I love modern art, and it is a great place to meet women! LOL! So, here I am sitting close to a bar serving station, and all of a sudden I look up and this tall attractive young woman comes up to me and says, “will you hold this?” She then hands me her drink, walks away for a moment, and comes back to get her drink. I knew it was going to be a good night! And it was. We spent the evening together and had a ball. Turns out she was a former college volleyball player and a tall drink of water, I’m 5’11” and she looked almost as tall as me. We laughed and drank the rest of the evening, and we ended up having a nice casual relationship. I still don’t know if she was a devo, but she liked me. It was a short thing as she was young and single and looking for adventure, she was dating other guys, but I was was the only one on wheels. We had fun and went our own ways. But it happened because a young confident woman came up to me and asked me to hold her drink for her. Funny how things happen sometimes. Ciao!
|
|
|
Post by turbo234 on Mar 5, 2019 9:41:22 GMT -5
Not to put everything on the dev, but if he doesn't have a ring on or isn't with somebody already, just come up and say hi! I know that's hard for a lot of people (myself included) but to be blunt, you can see us but we can't see if you're a dev. I know it'd sure as hell make my day if a random woman just came up to me, smiled, and said hi!
|
|
|
Post by linda on Mar 6, 2019 10:22:58 GMT -5
This is an interesting thread. It is good to see how those on the devo tip approach PWD’s “in the wild” so to speak. Everyone has their own levels of confidence and trepidation. As far as introductions are concerned this thread gives me call to remember my favorite cold introduction...I was attending an after work cocktail event at The Phillips Collection, one of my fav places in DC. I was a member at The Phillips because I love modern art, and it is a great place to meet women! LOL! So, here I am sitting close to a bar serving station, and all of a sudden I look up and this tall attractive young woman comes up to me and says, “will you hold this?” She then hands me her drink, walks away for a moment, and comes back to get her drink. I knew it was going to be a good night! And it was. We spent the evening together and had a ball. Turns out she was a former college volleyball player and a tall drink of water, I’m 5’11” and she looked almost as tall as me. We laughed and drank the rest of the evening, and we ended up having a nice casual relationship. I still don’t know if she was a devo, but she liked me. It was a short thing as she was young and single and looking for adventure, she was dating other guys, but I was was the only one on wheels. We had fun and went our own ways. But it happened because a young confident woman came up to me and asked me to hold her drink for her. Funny how things happen sometimes. Ciao! That’s a great story! Good to know that it can just be so easy.
|
|
|
Post by kwhi on Mar 6, 2019 10:54:49 GMT -5
This is an interesting thread. It is good to see how those on the devo tip approach PWD’s “in the wild” so to speak. Everyone has their own levels of confidence and trepidation. As far as introductions are concerned this thread gives me call to remember my favorite cold introduction...I was attending an after work cocktail event at The Phillips Collection, one of my fav places in DC. I was a member at The Phillips because I love modern art, and it is a great place to meet women! LOL! So, here I am sitting close to a bar serving station, and all of a sudden I look up and this tall attractive young woman comes up to me and says, “will you hold this?” She then hands me her drink, walks away for a moment, and comes back to get her drink. I knew it was going to be a good night! And it was. We spent the evening together and had a ball. Turns out she was a former college volleyball player and a tall drink of water, I’m 5’11” and she looked almost as tall as me. We laughed and drank the rest of the evening, and we ended up having a nice casual relationship. I still don’t know if she was a devo, but she liked me. It was a short thing as she was young and single and looking for adventure, she was dating other guys, but I was was the only one on wheels. We had fun and went our own ways. But it happened because a young confident woman came up to me and asked me to hold her drink for her. Funny how things happen sometimes. Ciao! That’s a great story! Good to know that it can just be so easy. Linda, it is just that easy, at least to me. I have learned to let things come to me. It is not always successful when I make the first move. Sometimes yes like the time I met a Russian lady at The National Gallery of Art. We were looking at the same painting and I struck up a conversation...We hit it off and went to the gallery cafe and she bought us wine and dessert and we hung out all afternoon. She was married and visiting DC with her husband so we went no further, but we had fun.One time I was at the Hirshhorn and was tracking through the exhibitions and noticed a very attractive brunette looking at the same works of art. So a make a couple of comments about the art to see if she will open up, and get very little response, so I tell her “you look very much like Jane Seymour.” No response so I say to her “some women might find that a compliment.” She says nothing. So I went on my way. No trouble, took a shot and missed. The next day I open the Washington Post and see that Jane Seymour is in town for a charity art event, and that she is an avid painter that sells her work. So I hit on Jane Seymour by telling her she looks just like Jane Seymour. I laughed my ass off! That’s one reason I love art galleries. They are also for the most part very accessible, at least in DC.
|
|
|
Post by linda on Mar 6, 2019 12:03:01 GMT -5
That’s a great story! Good to know that it can just be so easy. Linda, it is just that easy, at least to me. I have learned to let things come to me. It is not always successful when I make the first move. Sometimes yes like the time I met a Russian lady at The National Gallery of Art. We were looking at the same painting and I struck up a conversation...We hit it off and went to the gallery cafe and she bought us wine and dessert and we hung out all afternoon. She was married and visiting DC with her husband so we went no further, but we had fun.One time I was at the Hirshhorn and was tracking through the exhibitions and noticed a very attractive brunette looking at the same works of art. So a make a couple of comments about the art to see if she will open up, and get very little response, so I tell her “you look very much like Jane Seymour.” No response so I say to her “some women might find that a compliment.” She says nothing. So I went on my way. No trouble, took a shot and missed. The next day I open the Washington Post and see that Jane Seymour is in town for a charity art event, and that she is an avid painter that sells her work. So I hit on Jane Seymour by telling her she looks just like Jane Seymour. I laughed my ass off! That’s one reason I love art galleries. They are also for the most part very accessible, at least in DC. Since I love art galleries anyways, that could be the place to go. I‘ll definitely give it a try. Great story with Jane Seymour!!!
|
|
|
Post by kwhi on Mar 6, 2019 12:21:46 GMT -5
Since I love art galleries anyways, that could be the place to go. I‘ll definitely give it a try. Great story with Jane Seymour!!! Linda, that is my MO for meeting females. It took me a while to find my space, but I have two things going for me, one I love art, and a gallery can be both intellectually stimulating and relaxing. Two, galleries are loaded with women! A straight dude at a gallery has an overwhelming statistical advantage. So a female dev might not have the same experience, what to me is a “target rich enviroment” LOL might not prove as fruitful to you. I seldom encounter other dudes in chairs in my visits. So it may be difficult come across a man in chair, simply because there are so few of us, but if you do have the chance encounter as they say in Hamilton, “shoot your shot!” Chances are you will do well.
|
|
|
Post by feelsunshine on Apr 8, 2019 15:17:39 GMT -5
The weird thing is even without a sign or anything I always feel like I literally have "dev" tattooed on my face or that it is spelled out in my eyes or something, especially when I do see a nice looking guy in the wild. And then I become "paralyzed" myself and don't know how to act. Shyness is a pain in the "you know what"... I also can't lie for nothing, that can also be annoying. Ok, same with me... look at him, don't look at him, ignore, moment over. That's how it goes
|
|
|
Post by feelsunshine on Apr 9, 2019 1:02:26 GMT -5
Okay, that scares me... I know this was totally meant as a joke but still... I‘d rather go with the ones who are there by choice, not enforcement.
|
|
brinzerdecalli
Full Member
I hope to encounter some interesting and uniquely minded people.
Posts: 217
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
|
Post by brinzerdecalli on Apr 9, 2019 2:53:13 GMT -5
So just some ideas in what I always hope/look for is opportunity, so fabricate it! Even someone bold will not be able to capitalize if all you give is a big smile as you pass. Try to linger; tie your shoe, drop something and ask him to stop [If you are feeling bold joke about reaching around the chair and how you should buy him a drink first.] maybe turn around and try to ask a question at a stoplight. If he is sitting somewhere drop a "You look like someone who is good company, mind if I join you?" Lastly, don't be afraid to complement, guys don't often get a random girl saying out of the blue, "You are really handsome!" Guys don't get catcalled that often so it usually is a nice confidence boost even if you are not his type.
There's been several running jokes, but some merit to them: Apparel- Wear something you got from an MDA event or something similar showing you are understanding of disabilities and are cool helping out. Or maybe wear some disability positive clothes like the LoveYourGenes brand. Tracking- It would not be hard for a programmer to make a GPS and WPAN proximity identifier. Aka if they have the app active it will vibrate if someone with the companion app is near. So not that absurd... But I would be careful where you store your phone... ;p Could start the conversion off right, though. hahaha
|
|
|
Post by Turbowheeler on Apr 9, 2019 11:56:29 GMT -5
i dont think we should be able to recognice each other. sure it would make things a lot easier. but it will also take away the moment of exitement when you put your brave shoes on and be like fuck it i am gonna take chance and talk to this girl. without knowing if she might like you 2🤔 we just shouldnt think about it to much. so my advice to the devs would be dare to ask we dont bite unless you ask us 2😬and for the boys dont be afraid to put yourself out there. if you see a girl you like dev or not dont overthink it. just be yourself and make a move because if we dont take the risk we might never win.
|
|
|
Post by feelsunshine on Apr 9, 2019 16:32:36 GMT -5
i dont think we should be able to recognice each other. sure it would make things a lot easier. but it will also take away the moment of exitement when you put your brave shoes on and be like fuck it i am gonna take chance and talk to this girl. without knowing if she might like you 2🤔 we just shouldnt think about it to much. so my advice to the devs would be dare to ask we dont bite unless you ask us 2😬and for the boys dont be afraid to put yourself out there. if you see a girl you like dev or not dont overthink it. just be yourself and make a move because if we dont take the risk we might never win. Okay, you definitely have a point here. I also love the term "put the brave shoes on". Take the risk - if it works out, it's great - if not: whatever, move on
|
|