mrigby
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Post by mrigby on Nov 20, 2011 14:13:46 GMT -5
Out of curiosity, how many devs on here have dated wheelers, and how many wheelers have dated devs? Also, how did you meet each other? I'm hitting the dating scene again, so I guess I'm looking for advise on finding the dev of my dreams.
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Post by Emma on Nov 20, 2011 16:10:40 GMT -5
I dated two wheelers and married the 2nd. I met both guys online, one through a yahoo group and the other on whispers4u.
I think the biggest thing you need to consider is distance. Its rare to find a person who matches you in all the important dating ways, is a dev and is also nearby. Be prepared to travel and do the long distance thing initially.
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Post by BA on Nov 20, 2011 17:07:51 GMT -5
I had a long term relationship with a wheeler (5 + yrs). I went out on dates with a few others, but not enough compatibility/chemistry to go further. All were ppl met in real life, from my area.
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Post by Pisti on Nov 20, 2011 17:14:25 GMT -5
I'm pretty boring when it comes to the dating scene... I've married the first wheeler I've dated. We've met here, on Paradevo, and we had to travel a lot. For him, the very first time to travel abroad and take a plane was to visit me.
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Post by mrigby on Nov 20, 2011 22:08:03 GMT -5
Glad to hear that the online route worked for a couple of you, as I imagine that's probably how I'll meet someone. I don't go out much due to chronic back pain. That's also an issue when it comes long distance dating as I can't travel for long periods of time. Obviously if I fell for someone that wasn't in my neck of the woods though, I'd make it work.
Judit, how did you and your husband connect on here, if you don't mind me asking? Were both of you on the site to find someone? Did either of you post on the personals message board? Who made the first move?
Emma, thanks for the whispers4u tip. I just signed up. You mentioned distance. How far was your husband when you first met him?
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Post by Emma on Nov 20, 2011 22:20:09 GMT -5
Be careful with whispers.....lots of crazies on there and many of the able bodied women don't openly admit to being a dev.
I lived in New England and he was in the Northwest. So across the country, 2 time zones, almost as far away as possible. For the first year when we were dating long distance we spent lots of time in planes to visit each other.
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Post by mrigby on Nov 20, 2011 23:50:26 GMT -5
Yeah, I've tried online dating in the past. Definitely met some strange folks through that.
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Post by lavly on Nov 20, 2011 23:58:19 GMT -5
Yeah, I've tried online dating in the past. Definitely met some strange folks through that. show me someone thats "normal " and ill show you someone that boring .... i would rather hang out with the strange... way more fun
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Post by mrigby on Nov 21, 2011 0:09:13 GMT -5
Oh, dig that type of strange too. What I ended up with though is a date with a woman that was a "Hittler was misunderstood" Nazi.... I wish that was a joke. And I'm Jewish mind you. That was seriously the most uncomfortable date that I had ever been on.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2011 20:41:40 GMT -5
I've done the long distance thing twice and got burned both times. I can't imagine going through all that shit again. They were both devs but I never sought them out.
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Post by mrigby on Nov 21, 2011 20:59:06 GMT -5
My best advice is to post often, let people get to know you, and be patient. The chat room is often a good place to get to know people better, too. Thanks for the advice Lucretia. I'll try to keep an open mind on distance then. I suppose if two people are meant for each other they'll find a way to make it work... I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic.
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Post by mrigby on Nov 21, 2011 21:04:00 GMT -5
I've done the long distance thing twice and got burned both times. I can't imagine going through all that sh*t again. They were both devs but I never sought them out. Nick, my last relationship was long distance, but I was lucky if she'd talk to me once a week. So she wasn't exactly trying to begin with. :/
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Post by roger888 on Nov 22, 2011 2:29:19 GMT -5
I met my wife on the net ,so if you are lucky it's possible to meet someone that way,she was the first one I met from there,but I had a couple of other opportunites before that.The first one ,I chickened out of it (dont make that mistake EVER ,you could regret it for the rest of your life) & the second one lost out to my wife before I could arrange anything. None of these women were Devs. For the first two years that I knew my wife,we did a lot of train travelling.It can get expensive ,but the more you do the same route it doesn't get so tiring anymore & you learn which stations are good about forgetting you are on a certain train & which ones go the extra mile to look after you. .Train journeys always bring back good memories,so i enjoy chilling out on a long trip when we can't be bothered to drive..
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Post by mrigby on Nov 22, 2011 3:46:59 GMT -5
I met my wife on the net ,so if you are lucky it's possible to meet someone that way,she was the first one I met from there,but I had a couple of other opportunites before that.The first one ,I chickened out of it (dont make that mistake EVER ,you could regret it for the rest of your life) & the second one lost out to my wife before I could arrange anything. Thanks for the advice Roger.
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Post by Pisti on Nov 22, 2011 3:51:48 GMT -5
Judit, how did you and your husband connect on here, if you don't mind me asking? Were both of you on the site to find someone? Did either of you post on the personals message board? Who made the first move? We both posted on Personals here, he came about one year after I did, but neither of us was here to find a date. It started here: paradevo.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=personals&action=display&thread=798In January that year I just started a basic Spanish class, so we started to correspond to help me learn the language. When I first visited him in September that year I was quite fluent in Spanish, already learning Dutch (and dropped out of Spanish). I don't really know when it turned to something else than a friendship. He did not send me a pic during months, so I didn't know how he loked like, he was quite shy about telling me about his disability, so I didn't know what I'm getting myself into (btw. he is totally not my dev type, but it already didn't matter when I found out), but we just somehow clicked. Then we started to visit each other regularly. He lived with his parents until finally he moved in with me, so when I visited him or when he came here his parents were always around - very nice, friendly and accepting people. They didn't have anything against me, even though I come from the eastern block, I am from another religion, and our relationship with their son ment quite some physical and financial burden on them, too. I was just another daughter for them. So I guess I not only fell in love with him, but also with his whole family.
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